All about me

I’m Laura. I’m a mom.

I’m apparently that mom – the one that swore several things would or would not happen after I became a mom. I’d stay in the same shape I was in before I had kids. I’d never stop wearing, or adding to,  my closet full of dry clean only, size small Banana Republic and J Crew clothes.  I would always have perfectly pedicured toes. And, most importantly, I wouldn’t even dream of  responding, “I’m a mom” when asked to describe myself.

Take a minute to laugh. Once I accepted reality, I laughed, too. Reality only took a few months to set in.

And while being a mom is a huge part of who I am – the part that changed me in ways nothing else could, that made me get in touch with an inner soft side (one that could actually cry!), the part that suddenly realized what true, unconditional love actually feels like – it’s not all that I am.

There’s more to me, even if it’s far less adorable than my kids.

I’m a law school graduate. Yes, many years ago, I spent three years working hard for a piece of paper, worth a lot of money, that I have no intention of using. I’m going to frame it. When and if I find it.

I’m a reformed Type A person. And by reformed, I mean I no longer lose sleep over every last thing that I can’t control. I only lose sleep over half the things I can’t control.

I’m a freelance writer, blogger and copyeditor turned editor. I love writing.  My mom once told me my writing was “verbose.” I know that’s a nice way of saying that I have verbal vomit, even if she still insists to this day that’s not what she meant. Well, getting paid to write in a mildly intelligent manner in some places and to blather in others is awesome.

I accepted a job offer from one of my favorite clients and now I’m an editor. I miss all of the writing, but I love what I do. Very much.

I don’t write formally on my blog. I swear occasionally. I use run-on sentences and inappropriate punctuation when I want to. See? I even end sentences in prepositions. I often fail to spell check.

I’m a good friend – a really good friend – and a nice person. I can say that about myself because it’s true. I’m extremely sarcastic and have a smart mouth on occasion…or when necessary. Sometimes, it’s necessary. And yes, it’s possible to be kind and snarky. I also know this because I am both.

I love the beach and the ocean. I don’t surf. Or run. Or lay out. (You’re welcome for the last one, because laying out usually requires a bikini.) But I love the the beach and ocean.

Taking really long walks makes me happy. I’ll sell either my soul or my body, depending on the day, for a good glass of wine and piece of chocolate. These days, I’d get more for my soul. Sleep deprivation hasn’t been kind to my waistline. Or my hips.

I’m very close to my family. My parents and my little-but-way bigger-brother  are incredibly important to me, even though we live in different states, something I never envisioned when I thought of my adult-life-with-kids. We all lived within 15 miles of each other until 2009. A bad economy, but new opportunities, can force moves. I cried when I found out we had to move to another state for my husband’s job. I don’t cry much.

I love where we live now. Funny how that stuff works out.

(But I miss “home.” A lot.)

I’ve been married to my best friend for over 11 years. He’s laid back, extremely sarcastic, funny, thoughtful, sensitive, patient and impatient at the same time, hard working, intelligent and a great dad. And he’s a dude. So that sums up the other parts of him and eliminates the need for another list of descriptors, right?

We get along really well. And we argue sometimes. We have a really good marriage. I subscribe to my mom’s philosophy: if there’s never any disagreement in a relationship, then one person is pretty much unnecessary.

My husband is eight years older than me. We were married a few months before I could legally drink. It was sadly thrilling  when I was served champagne on the flight to our honeymoon destination, which was an entire 60 minute flight away. You can’t go on a long honeymoon when you’re a sophomore in college and have class to attend.

My parents panicked when I got engaged at 19. They thought I’d drop out of college, get pregnant and skip out on my grad school plans. Funny how easily people who know you so well can forget all those things they’ve known about you for your entire life. My husband and my dad are as close as can be and my mom is like his mom. It didn’t take long for that to happen.

I’ve been blogging for 4.5 years. This blog began as an adoption blog and turned into a diary of our lives. If you’re interested in the real life parts of adopting kids, in addition to the cupcake and rainbow parts, and you have a year some free time, it’s all there.

I love comments and I love getting to know people. I’ve formed some incredible, deep life-long friendships as a result of blogging. If we don’t know each other, let’s get to know each other!

If I do know you, don’t be creepy and read all about my life without saying something. ‘Cause that’s just weird. And nobody likes a weirdo.

Back to the mom part. I have two amazing children. Want to read more about them, how we became a family or  learn how I named this blog? Click on over to their page. After all, this page is all about me.

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Lisa October 4, 2010 at 1:16 pm

Love it! You totally rock and am so excited for this new avenue for you to post your amazing writings.

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Allison October 4, 2010 at 5:54 pm

I’m excited about your new home and the exciting new opportunities for you! I’m still avoiding my law school education for the time being, too, but it’s funny how you can never get yourself completely away from it! Congrats!

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Kerryanne October 4, 2010 at 9:09 pm

Looks great Laura! xox

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emily October 5, 2010 at 3:50 am

hey lady…love your new space. lovely!

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Heather D October 5, 2010 at 4:44 am

Loving your blog, Laura. And since I don’t want to be any weirder than I already am, I am letting you know that I will be one of the many lurkers on this site! And when you finally get your stand up comedy act together, I will be first in line for tickets!

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Karen October 5, 2010 at 5:33 am

Really like your new digs! Loved reading all about you! You did a good job of describing yourself! :) I really cherish the fact that we shared all of those really “verbose” e-mails before traveling to get the boys! It saved us both a ton of money on therapy I think! :0) Love and miss you!

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Laura Mueller October 5, 2010 at 12:36 pm

Sigh! I’ve turned into to “that” mom too!

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mostlymorgan October 5, 2010 at 3:05 pm

Loving your new space! I hope to do the same one day….it could take a year or so for me to adjust to having two kiddos.

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mimi lam October 5, 2010 at 8:51 pm

Such a cool biography introduction, and I like your new home too.

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Lisa October 6, 2010 at 2:57 pm

Love it but that’s no surprise because you know I adore you! You absolutely rock. Glad you have an all about you page!

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Katherine October 10, 2010 at 7:39 pm

Ok… So I didn’t want to be creepy either! So, here I am de-lurking and leaving (gasp) a comment! I love your new spot. I love your new name. You really are an (un)common family, (un)common because your marriage is strong, you have great support from your parents, and 2 amazing little peanuts! I am glad that I took the chance to contact just one year ago to “do my homework for me”, I made a friend. I will be back often (Scotty will too!) We may not EVER comment, but we love what you have to say… all of it. Keep us laughing, Laura! We need it!

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Pamela October 15, 2010 at 4:13 pm

I AM ALSO a lawyer who writes and refuses to use the law degree, blah blah etc. Feeling a kinship.

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Shelly October 22, 2010 at 10:41 am

HI, thought since I have been intrigued by your blog and reading it all morning, I should say Hello! Especially with the tail end of a few pages that say if Im reading this and dont say Hi, Im more than likely a freak. So once again Hello, and I don’t think Ive caught your name!
Hmmm must keep reading. NO mini van for me Trailblazer 3rd row seating!

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Natalie October 28, 2010 at 10:50 am

Love you Laura! I miss your sarcasm (in person). XOXO dear friend!

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Jenni Chiu November 20, 2010 at 1:43 pm

Oh, I like you! But not in weird, stalkerish way. Okay… maybe a little.

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Leta Hamilton December 7, 2010 at 11:37 am

Laura – got your name from a HARO query you put in about an article you were doing for sheknows.com in October. I am a radio show host for a parenting show called “The Way of the Toddler Hour” that goes out to about 450 parents from London to Seattle. I am trying to book an interview with you in June. I know it seems a long ways away, but it helps to be organized. Can you please email me so that I can talk to you about dates.
thanks
Leta Hamilton

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Pix December 26, 2010 at 6:17 pm

Very happy to find your blog and look forward to reading! I’m also type A (not reformed yet, but there’s always hope) and have many of the same pre-kid attitudes that you did. We are in the process of adopting from South Korea!

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Lauren January 23, 2011 at 5:16 pm

I am hooked already. Love your tone. Can’t wait to “join” the ride. So happy I came across your blog and you no longer have that creepy number of people you are following.

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heather February 16, 2011 at 9:17 pm

Laura… I never knew you had this!! I LOVE it. I may not be able to check in all the time, but I promise to not be “creepy” and let you know when I do! You are an inspiration for me to get off my ass someday and finish my blog about my last trip… and continue blogging about my new life that will begin in less than 5 weeks…. I hope to see you before then. Big hugs to you and your incredible family!! peace

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Stacie Lewis April 10, 2011 at 1:27 pm

Hi Laura – I clicked over here from the Circle of Moms Inspirational Families page. I’m about 1,000 votes below you :) But I can see why – your blog is really well-written. I loved the post about your kids and you at IKEA. They are adorable btw. Best wishes to you all!

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Stacey April 30, 2011 at 7:24 am

Hi, I just stumbled across your blog and wanted to tell you that I love it. For some reason reading about you gave me chills, in a good way. I feel like I relate to you and appreciate you “keeping it real.” :) Have a great day

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Laura April 30, 2011 at 8:49 am

Hi Stacey! Thank you so much for stopping by and for the compliment. I hope to “see” you again and get to know you! ~Laura

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Sophie May 20, 2011 at 12:42 pm

I love your blog Laura! … I never knew you got married at 19?! That must have been in the TBF (Time Before Facebook). You’re family is the cutest. :)

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Laura May 20, 2011 at 5:33 pm

Thank you so much, Sophie! I was actually 20. :-) You know – really old. It was sooooo TBF, too. That long ago. How are you??? I loved your co-pilot pictures!

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Dee DeTarsio June 6, 2011 at 9:40 am

You made me want to buy pillows this morning! (That’s how I found you!) You have a great site–thanks! Dee

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Laura June 6, 2011 at 12:36 pm

Hi Dee! Thank you for stopping by!! I still want to buy pillows. I wandered around my house, trying to decide where I *needed* one. :-) I’m glad you enjoyed the Etsy roundup!

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Crystal April 12, 2012 at 1:35 pm

Hi Laura, nice to meet you. I came across your blog when researching the neti pot. When I read it I was laughing so hard I was crying! Love your sense of humor. You have a truly beautiful family and the more I read, the more inspired I am. Thank you.

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Laura April 12, 2012 at 8:02 pm

Thank you so much, Crystal!!! What a nice compliment. Nice to “meet” you!

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MeLisa April 30, 2012 at 12:15 pm

Hi Laura. So glad to have met you (on twitter). We have quite a bit in common. I got married at 19 and was an adoptive parent at 21. Now I’m 35 and we have 6 adopted kids. YIKES! My dad likes to tell us that we opened the floodgates. (I have a super close family too) I’m always excited to meet people that share my heart. It helps to remind us that we’re not alone in the world.

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Laura April 30, 2012 at 3:22 pm

Thank you so much for stopping by! We do have a lot in common – except you’ve got four kids on me, which means you have to be waaaayyy more patient than me. :) I am so glad I happened to notice that you followed me on Twitter today. I’m excited to learn more about your family. I’ll be in touch soon for the feature.

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Amber September 13, 2012 at 9:39 am

Love your about me!!! Look forward to following your story!

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Rick October 25, 2012 at 2:11 am

I was very happy to hear that your dad survived sepsis. I am going through this with my dad right now. He had a lung removed do to cancer. He was out of the hosptal a week and became severly ill and was rushed to ER via squad. In the ER the diagnosed the sepsis and put him on a ventilator. His health has been up and down now for four days. The family is holding strong and beleive that he is going to make it. But, his kidney’s are not working properly. He is not in sepsis shock but, he is infected with sepsis. I am racking my brain trying to find an answer to make him better. That way, I know he is going to survive. I have hope that he is going to be coming home soon, and that he will be stronger than ever.

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