Four years ago today, we met Mattix for the first time. It was one of the two most important days of my life, the other being the day we met Molley.
Four years ago (and for many, many months), this is how my sweet baby looked at me.
How could he look at me any other way? He didn’t know me and he didn’t know what it was like to be treated how he deserved.
Just four short – yet sometimes long – years later, things have certainly changed.
Mattix is truly the happiest child I know. He is easy going, cheerful, kind, loving, compassionate beyond belief, sharing, sweet, extremely funny, well-mannered and so good to those he cares about that it’s staggering.
Four years ago, thoughts of dealing with long-term issues like RAD flitted through my mind. Today, although I still know how very real those thoughts were — and how realistic they were — they seem silly.
Love does not conquer all in adoption. Love cannot erase my children’s losses, it cannot remedy all of the pain they may feel one day, it cannot answer every question for which no answer exists.
But one thing is for sure: Love, along with absolute commitment, goes a long, long way.