Friday fun, photo version: Four years of motherhood

December 9, 2011

in Adoption, Friday Fun, Parenting, Photos

Four years ago today, we met Mattix for the first time. It was one of the two most important days of my life, the other being the day we met Molley.

Four years ago (and for many, many months), this is how my sweet baby looked at me.

How could he look at me any other way? He didn’t know me and he didn’t know what it was like to be treated how he deserved.

Just four short – yet sometimes long – years later, things have certainly changed.

Mattix is truly the happiest child I know. He is easy going, cheerful, kind, loving, compassionate beyond belief, sharing, sweet, extremely funny, well-mannered and so good to those he cares about that it’s staggering.

Four years ago, thoughts of dealing with long-term issues like RAD flitted through my mind. Today, although I still know how very real those thoughts were — and how realistic they were — they seem silly.

Love does not conquer all in adoption. Love cannot erase my children’s losses, it cannot remedy all of the pain they may feel one day, it cannot answer every question for which no answer exists.

But one thing is for sure: Love, along with absolute commitment, goes a long, long way.

You can read more about my feelings, as well as clips from each year’s “anniversary” post, on my post from last year, I held my son for the first time three years ago today.

{ 16 comments… read them below or add one }

laura December 9, 2011 at 1:48 pm

This is great. Beautiful. Happy 4 year anniversary to you, your family, and your son.


Katie. December 9, 2011 at 1:58 pm

What a special special day for a special family. Hope you find the time today to enjoy it! xo.


Mama Mary December 9, 2011 at 2:01 pm

Love those photos. Happy, happy, joy, joy!


Jen December 9, 2011 at 2:29 pm

It brings tears to my eyes…yes..he looks nervous…but I also see hope. You were the mommy he had been waiting for :) LOVE.


Nichole December 9, 2011 at 3:55 pm

Such a beautiful post, my friend.
What an amazing young boy you’re raising.


Alicia December 9, 2011 at 4:08 pm

This is the sweetest! It made me tear up a bit. They are so lucky to have you and likewise I know you are lucky to have them!


January December 9, 2011 at 5:00 pm

So special. And wonderfully written with such incredible love and pride for your sweet son. He’s a beautiful little soul.


Kelli K December 9, 2011 at 5:32 pm

Happy four years of being a mom! I had a good cry reading this- couldn’t help myself. Knowing how far Matty has come….truly amazing but I wouldn’t expect any less with his two wonderful parents. And Mattix deserves a whole lot of credit too- what a sweet boy . :) You are a beautiful family!


Krista December 9, 2011 at 5:51 pm

What a beautiful tribute to your son. Very well said…


Terry December 9, 2011 at 9:12 pm

I too am blessed and thank you for bringing him into our lives. He has a tremendous capacity for compassion and love and has enriched our lives so much (selfish on my part-huh?). He makes me want to be a better grandma/person, as does Molley. I am a lucky girl.


mimi lam December 9, 2011 at 11:05 pm

A very loving touching post, and I read it at every his anniversary, Matty has a generous, loving soul, the kids look so happy, Matty is getting older,and you has not changed from 4 years ago!!..


Malin December 10, 2011 at 6:22 am

Make me soooo happy!

Malin and Pixie Thi from Kien Giang


Maegan December 10, 2011 at 9:44 am



Susan December 10, 2011 at 7:55 pm

Aw, I got such a lump in my throat reading this post. I remember checking your blog often and reading about the challenges you guys faced. All the photos I see of your family these days is truly a testament of the love, commitment and devotion you guys have for each other, and it’s a beautiful thing. Happy day!


Christina December 15, 2011 at 7:07 pm

I don’t have words right now.


Maegan December 17, 2011 at 10:45 am

That is an amazing post! Mattix is very special and lucky, as is Moll!
You guys are all blessed! xoxo


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